My story
People stare when I walk into a room. I've never been entirely sure why. I'm not working for it. I'm just there.
Seven years. A small circle. The people who've known me a long time keep coming back, some of them weekly. I pay attention to who you are right now, not who you were last time.
I grew up in the San Fernando Valley. Heat waves, the '94 earthquake, thrift shopping on Sherman Way. I found my first Bukowski at fifteen between a broken lamp and someone's old records. I took the bus to Hollywood on weekends to sneak into shows at the Whisky because that's where the music was and I needed to be near it. I knew what I wanted before I knew the word for it.
I spent years building other things first: real estate, artist management, a music festival I produced for three years, real sponsors and sold-out shows, until a pandemic ended it. I know how to build something. I know what I left to do this instead.
I read Duras. I speak Spanish when I'm tipsy. I blush when you say something kind. I don't look away.
I notice things before you say them. When you need space, when you need the opposite. The relief that arrives when someone is finally, completely present. I'm there the moment I walk in. The relationship becomes what it needs to be. That isn't something I learned. It's just how I am.
I'm drawn to people who are genuinely curious. Who give their full attention without being asked. Who understand that something real requires something real in return. That combination is rarer than it sounds, and when I find it I don't take it lightly.
I prefer time that unfolds. A long dinner, a slow weekend, somewhere we both had to fly to get to.
You already know if this is you. Reach out.
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I work in subtraction. The easiest thing in the world is to add more, more adjectives, more availability, more reasons to say yes. I take things away until only the true ones are left. It's why you won't find much here that could be said about anyone else.
I treat a first meeting like the opening track, not an audition. I'm not measuring you against a checklist, and I'd rather you not measure yourself against one either. The good ones aren't trying to pass. They're just curious what happens next.
I don't keep score across visits. Whoever you are the day we meet is who I'm with. Last time doesn't set the terms for this time. That sounds simple and almost no one does it.
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Privacy as a courtesy I extend first. I'm careful with you because I'd want the same, not because a policy told me to. Discretion runs in both directions or it isn't worth much.
People who know the difference between expensive and rare. Plenty can buy the evening. The ones I keep understand that the part worth having was never for sale, and they don't confuse the two.
A sense of humor that survives contact. I take the work seriously and almost nothing else, and the people I like best can tell which is which.
Being self-taught, in everything. No one handed me this. I built it, the same way I learned the bass and the cooking and the rest, by starting badly and refusing to stop. I trust what I made myself.
A Life
Always Learning
I'm always in the middle of learning something. Tennis, golf, archery, heels dance, woodworking, yoga. Racing classes are next, and after that horseback riding, properly, so we can eventually go through Mongolia. I don't think there's a version of me that stops taking lessons.
I take clown classes. This is not a joke, or it is, and that's the point.
Music
I shoot film because the grain is evidence. I play bass alone in my apartment because some things aren't meant to be performed. I've been going to concerts and festivals my whole life because music is the one thing that works at every volume. I collect vinyl carefully, with intent. I listen to everything and make playlists the way some people write letters. I cannot sing a single note and this has never stopped me. Explore my Spotify here.
Architecture
The houses I keep returning to in my mind: Neutra, Eames, Frank Lloyd Wright. The ones who understood that a room should feel like something before anything happens in it. I've been to the Eames House. I keep going back.
Art and Books
The artists: Helmut Newton, Man Ray, Frida Kahlo, Dalí. I collect erotic photography books, the body as subject, not object. I read poetry. I read about desire, sex work politics, the architecture of intimacy.
Collecting
Archival and runway pieces, clothing made to be remembered. Vintage fine jewelry. Things with a history longer than mine.
Cinema
Lynch, Park Chan-wook, Kubrick, Lanthimos, Ari Aster, Tarantino, Wes Anderson, Terry Gilliam. Cinema that trusts you to keep up or leaves you behind either way.
At the Table
I cook. Always learning a new cuisine, taking classes, trying things that don't work the first time, trying them again. I love hosting dinner parties, a full table, good wine, the kind of evening that doesn't end when it's supposed to. It reminds me of growing up in a house that was always full of food and laughter and someone dancing in the kitchen.
Fresh sushi. Wagyu. Every cheese without exception. Milk chocolate over dark, always. The taco truck with no signage on a street you'd never drive down otherwise that ruins every other taco for you permanently. Michelin tasting menus when the occasion calls for it. I have strong opinions about all of it and I'm not interested in pretending otherwise.
Small Things
Ranunculus. Peonies. Rain on summer nights when you can smell the jasmine before you see it. I want to learn to garden, to understand how things grow from the beginning.
Still Going
I've been to Sardinia in August when the light does something unreasonable. Tikal at sunrise before the crowds. Mexico City in the rain. Montreal in October. Asia, Africa, the Middle East still ahead of me, which is the part I like best. I want to float over something ancient in a hot air balloon. I'm not finished.
The Dogs
Two dogs, both rescued as puppies. One is a husky-border collie-cattle dog mix who has opinions about everything. The other is a shih tzu-chihuahua-terrier mix who has no idea how small she is. I walk them to the park every morning at eight with a coffee and sit there until someone has somewhere to be. Most mornings, that someone is me.
At a glance
Height
Weight
Shoes
5’4
115 lbs
7.5US/38EU
Bust
Waist
Hips
32DD
26
36
Petite, Slender
Narrow Strip,
Natural Underarm
Pansexual
Figure
Groom
Identity
Virgo
INFJ
English & Spanish (fluently)
Star
Type
Spoken
