Independent companion · Los Angeles · San Francisco · New York
A small circle.Full presence.
Seven years in practice. A few dates each week, never more. Longer evenings preferred, and available for travel worldwide.
My story
People stare when I walk into a room. I’ve never been entirely sure why.
I’m not working for it. I’m just there.
Seven years, a small circle. The people who’ve known me a long time keep coming back, some of them weekly.
I grew up in the San Fernando Valley. Heat waves, the ’94 earthquake, thrift shopping on Sherman Way. I found my first Bukowski at fifteen between a broken lamp and someone’s old records. I took the bus to Hollywood on weekends to sneak into shows at the Whisky because that’s where the music was and I needed to be near it. I knew what I wanted before I knew the word for it.
I spent years building other things first: real estate, artist management, a music festival I produced for three years, real sponsors and sold-out shows, until a pandemic ended it. I know how to build something. I know what I left to do this instead.
I read Duras. I speak Spanish when I’m tipsy. I blush when you say something kind. I don’t look away.
I notice things before you say them. When you need space, when you need the opposite. The relief that arrives when someone is finally, completely present. I’m there the moment I walk in. That isn’t something I learned. It’s just how I am.
I prefer time that unfolds. A long dinner, a slow weekend, somewhere we both had to fly to get to.
Who I see
Professionally accomplished, yes. But that’s not actually what I notice first.
What I notice is whether someone is genuinely curious. Whether they can hold a conversation that goes somewhere unexpected. Whether they’re present enough to catch what’s happening between the words, not just in them.
The men I spend time with have usually built something significant without needing it acknowledged. They know what they want. They’re tired of experiences that require effort to feel real, chemistry that has to be manufactured, presence that has to be performed.
If that’s you, keep reading. If you’re still weighing options, this probably isn’t the right fit, and that’s fine too.
How I work
How I work.
Subtraction
The easiest thing in the world is to add more: more adjectives, more availability, more reasons to say yes. I take things away until only the true ones are left. It’s why you won’t find much here that could be said about anyone else.
The opening track
I treat a first meeting like the opening track, not an audition. I’m not measuring you against a checklist, and I’d rather you not measure yourself against one either. The good ones aren’t trying to pass. They’re just curious what happens next.
No score
I don’t keep score across visits. Whoever you are the day we meet is who I’m with. Last time doesn’t set the terms for this time. That sounds simple, and almost no one does it.
Privacy, both ways
A courtesy I extend first. I’m careful with you because I’d want the same, not because a policy told me to. Discretion runs in both directions or it isn’t worth much.
What to expect
Warm, unhurried, and real in a way that’s harder to find than it should be.
You’ll notice I’m actually listening. Not politely. Actually.
You’ll have said something you didn’t plan to say, and it won’t feel like a mistake. I dress for the occasion, arrive ready, and leave my phone somewhere it can’t interrupt us.
Most people find it even better. By then we already know each other, and that changes everything.
Plenty can buy the evening. The ones I keep understand that the part worth having was never for sale.
A life
What I do when I’m not with you.
Always learning
Tennis, golf, archery, woodworking, yoga, heels. Racing school is next, then horseback riding, properly, so I can cross Mongolia one day. I take clown classes. This is not a joke, or it is, and that’s the point.
Music
I play bass alone in my apartment because some things aren’t meant to be performed. I collect vinyl carefully, with intent, and make playlists the way some people write letters. I’ve been going to shows my whole life; music is the one thing that works at every volume. I cannot sing a note and this has never stopped me. My Spotify
Architecture
Neutra, Eames, Frank Lloyd Wright. The ones who understood that a room should feel like something before anything happens in it. I’ve been to the Eames House. I keep going back.
Pictures and books
I shoot film because the grain is evidence. Helmut Newton, Man Ray. I collect erotic photography books, the body as subject, not object. I read poetry, and whatever has been written well about desire.
Collecting
Archival and runway pieces, clothing made to be remembered. Vintage fine jewelry. Things with a history longer than mine.
Cinema
Lynch, Kubrick, Park Chan-wook, Lanthimos, Ari Aster. Cinema that trusts you to keep up or leaves you behind either way.
At the table
I cook. Always a new cuisine, a class, something that doesn’t work the first time and does the second. I love hosting: a full table, good wine, the kind of evening that doesn’t end when it’s supposed to. It reminds me of growing up in a house full of food, with someone always dancing in the kitchen. Sushi, wagyu, every cheese, milk chocolate over dark, and the taco truck with no signage that ruins every other taco for you.
Small things
Ranunculus. Peonies. Summer rain when you can smell the jasmine before you see it.
Still going
Sardinia in August, when the light does something unreasonable. Tikal at sunrise before the crowds. Mexico City in the rain. Montreal in October. Asia, Africa and the Middle East still ahead of me, which is the part I like best. I want to float over something ancient in a hot air balloon. I’m not finished.
The dogs
Two dogs, both rescued as puppies. One is a husky, border collie and cattle dog mix with opinions about everything. The other is a shih tzu, chihuahua and terrier mix with no idea how small she is. I walk them to the park every morning with a coffee and sit there until someone has somewhere to be. Most mornings, that someone is me.
At a glance
The particulars.
- Height
- 5’4”
- Weight
- 115 lbs
- Bust
- 32DD
- Waist
- 26”
- Hips
- 36”
- Dress
- Small, US 2
- Shoes
- US 7.5, EU 37.5
- Identity
- Pansexual
- Sign
- Virgo
- Type
- INFJ
- Languages
- English and Spanish, fluently